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Wednesday, April 26, 2006
I saw you in a dream last night. It’s the first time Ive seen your face in months. Against our wishes, our families arranged for us to meet and plan a wedding. For fear of meeting their disapproval, we relented. I remember seeing scenes of preparing for our wedding day. I went shopping for my dress… I picked out the cake, the invitations, the tablecloth colors, the flowers, the venue- everything down to the last detail. You had little to do with it. We saw each other few times during the planning process- only when it was imperative that we be together. So much of me wanted for us to be in love again. Another part of me said "its too late". The wedding day finally arrived, and we were both miserable. Before I put on my dress, before you put on your tux, before all the guests arrived, I couldn’t stand it anymore. "Why do we have to get married?!" Your mother was shocked. You looked at me as if you felt the same way; though we had not spoken in so long, I could read your expression. You silenced our bickering families and answered, "we don’t have to." And you smiled. And I smiled. "I just want to be with you. We don’t even know if we like each other anymore. I want to get to know you all over again. Start over. Fresh." You agreed. We walked out of the church (or venue... whatever it was) together. We moved in to our house and started over. I cleaned the kitchen while you sat in your chair to watch your favorite show. I asked you if you needed anything to eat. You shook your head and beckoned me to come sit next to you. Hesitantly, I did, scared to death of what might happen if I gave you my heart again. You put your arm around me, and kissed my forehead. "What’s your favorite thing to eat?" you asked me. I answered. "What’s your favorite color?" Again I answered. Soon, we were talking like we used to, and the afternoon had turned to evening. Then I woke up, and wondered if you were dreaming of me at that same moment…
Posted at Wednesday, April 26, 2006 by Baby
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Saturday, January 14, 2006
Todays the day I broke down. Or maybe its just the beginning. I was fixing my hair and out of no where, this picture came to mind. It was the night I flew to Maryland to see him, and it was going to be the first time in almost 6 months. When we saw each other, we just embraced. We held on so tight as if we thought maybe if we held each other close enough, we could be one. For the very first time in my entire life, I felt like I belonged to someone. I was his to hold. His to love. Theres no other feeling greater than knowing Im his. That moment struck my memory so suddenly this morning that I fell on my knees, clenched my hands tightly between them, and cried. No, I sobbed. And I prayed. For some help. When I finally regained my strength, I wrote a poem and cried all the way thru it. I havent written poetry in so long because its usually only sparked my a very intense emotion, and at those times, Im better just crying. But today, I had to write it all down, and it was one of the hardest things Ive ever written. I want him so badly to want to hold on to me because walking away is going to tear me apart. I hurt so bad right now... Weve fallen apart, but the only thing I can think of is how perfect we are together when hes home. I want him to want us, but instead, Im only left with memories.
Posted at Saturday, January 14, 2006 by Baby
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Sunday, January 08, 2006
Ive been in another world for the last 2 days. Im walking around in a daze like I just dont know what the next step to take is. Do I cry? Or keep holding it in? Do I move on? Or hold on to what we had hoping that someday we can work thru our differences? Does he really love me enough to wait for me? Or will he get lonely and find someone else? Is what we had stong enough to get us thru this? Or is it just the past? I dont know if I should be happy or sad, strong or broken, forgiving or hateful, understanding or resentful. I change from one to the other in minutes. Im so damn confused! I would think that if you love someone, you would do whatever it takes to keep them close to you, not push them away. I would think that you would want to work thru anything now to prove that you can work thru anything later! He always told me when I missed him that "later down the road, we will know how to handle being away from each other for a time, when other couples wont..." True, but why would you anticipate being far apart from each other later down the road? He used to tell me how much he loved me, how much he missed me, how glad he was that I was his, that he looked forward to a future. Now what? Did he change his mind? Or was it all a lie? I meant everything I ever said to him, but I woke up one day to find out that he didnt. Because, now were not working thru anything. Hes gone. And he left when I needed him most. Again. I feel so stupid, tricked almost. I gave him what I never thought I could give, and he took it and left. He promised he was going to be the one person who would never leave me. He was going to show me that he was different from everyone else and different from what he used to be! He asked me once what it would take to get me to trust him. "Time, and assurance" was my answer. He told me that if I gave him the time, he would give me the assurance. I was scared to death to let him back in, but I did it because I believed everything he told me. He even knew how much he had hurt me before, and he said he didnt ever want to hurt me like that again. Thats true- it hurts much deeper than it ever did before. I have nothing to go on now! I dont know if he'll ever come back. I dont know if he will want to try again when he gets home. I dont know if I should wait on him or he wants me to move on. The scary part is, I dont think I can. As far as relationships go, I dont think I could ever get to a place with another guy that would mean as much to me. No other guy has been around me for so long to know who I am and who I used to be, and can appreciate the difference. I hoped HE would. I believed that he knew he had something special with me, and now I just dont know. I have no idea what hes thinking or how hes handling any of this or if he really does still love me or if hell come back to me someday. Im scared that Ill never know, and that if I move on, he could come back, and then I wont know how to come back to him. Im in a whirlwind of thoughts and hopes and fears and I just dont know what to think or believe anymore. Im still wearing my promise ring because I meant what I promised him. Now I feel like either hes making me break my promise or he doesnt care if I keep it. So its hard to decide if I should wear it in hopes that were both strong enough to make it.... or if its all dead. false. gone. over.
Posted at Sunday, January 08, 2006 by Baby
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Thursday, January 05, 2006
I went to bed around 8 last night, and after I had fallen asleep, I kept getting these calls from an area code Ive never seen before. I was tired, so I just kept hitting the reject button- like 5 or 6 times! After awhile, my aunt called. I didnt answer. Then my Gma called. And I didnt answer. By then, I was awake enough to realize that if they were calling me that late at night, something must be wrong! So I checked my messages, so see if either my aunt or my Gma had told me what was going on. I got a message from a guy whos voice I didnt recognize, saying, "Hey, Autumn, this is Drew. Im not living at home anymore. Im in Alabama..." After that, Im not sure waht all he said, cuz I was trying to figure out who the hell I knew in Alabama! Then he said, "I cant believe I found you. I love you so much!" It hit me all of the sudden that it was MY BROTHER!!!!!!! I flew out of bed to turn on my light and write down his number. I was shaking and scared to know if he was ok! I didnt expect to hear from him for another 2 years or so! I called him back, but it was busy, so I called Gma and asked what was going on, and if he was ok. She said he was fine, and his phone was prolly busy cuz he was talking to Stacy (my uncle). I told her not to tell me anything cuz I wanted Drew to tell me, and since he was calling me again, I let her go...
I answered the phone, and he said, "hi, can I talk to Autumn?" I said, "Baby! Its me!!!" He started crying. (Im being stubborn, so I didnt cry.) I asked if he was ok, and when he said he was, we just sat there and talked for a good couple of hours. He kept telling me over and over how much he loved me, and that meant so much to me, because I wondered if he was mad at me all these years. When I was 18, and got kicked out, Dad and the Witch changed their numbers and forbade me to see Drew or Ashley (my stepsister). No matter how much I tried to stay in touch, they pushed me further and further away, and told the kids all kinds of lies about me. They told them that I was on drugs, that I was seeing my mom behind their backs, that I had an abortion, that I didnt love Drew, and a lot of other things that Ashley made up. Because Drew was so young, I wasnt sure if he knew that I loved him and that I DIDNT leave home by my own will. I didnt know if he understood what was going on and I was scared that if he ever DID find me, he would be mad at me for leaving him. I told him all that last night, and he said, "I knew exactly what was going on. And you were all I had! Once you left, I did everything I could to get out of there. I tried to get kicked out. I hated it there so much." He told me that he knew I always loved him. I was SO glad and SO relieved to hear him say that. Up until the day I moved out, I cant think of a single time in out lives when we were ever apart for longer than a day or 2. Ever since he was born, and ESPECIALLY ever since the divorce, all we ever had was each other. He told me how bad it got after I left home and how much Ashley got away with by blaming things on him. I believe it- taht girl could get away with murder jsut because she was the Witch's daughter and PERFECT in her eyes.... I was suprised how much he remembered from back when he was little, too. He told me he remembered the time we were at our moms house and her boyfriend did drugs in front of us. So when Dad picked us up at the end of the weekend, he made us tell him what happened, and we had to go to the police station to turn our mom in. Drew was prolly only 4 years old, but he remembered. I asked him if he remembered all our brothers and sisters, and he did. Hes met them all but Hunter- the youngest. I told Drew that Ive never met HUnter, but from pictures, they look just alike!
He asked me where mom was and how she was. I told him how I found mom right before I turned 18, and our relationship has been real rocky since then. I told him how mom has been in and out of prison for years and all our siblings have been taken away from her. Dustin is 19 now, and very lost. He used to get to see Hunter, Angela and Tiffany, but because he went to jail for drugs, he wasnt allowed to see them anymore. Tiffany is in a boarding school in another state. And Hunter and Angela are either being fostered or they were adopted by a family a couple hours from here. And of course, Im on my own, and Ashley is still with Dad and the Witch. HE asked me what mom was like and I told him that talkign to her is great and she and I can talk about old times, but if he ever wants to see her or talk to her he needs to keep in mind that she cant be his mom. She doesnt know how to be a mom. Shes the most irresponsible, selfish person I know, and hes not going to be able to just pick up a relationship with her. Hes not going to be able to depend on her for anything, and I made sure to emphasize that! ...She sure hasnt helped me any... I told him that she was back with Eddie (that father of all our other siblings) and that upset him. I know, I hated it too, at first. Eddie wasnt very nice to us when we were younger... He asked what she looked like, and even mentioning her at all made him emotional. We talked abt how I got with Adam (which he knew already) and how after we broke up I moved in with Kellie and Walter, then got a good job and got an apt, and how I met Jay-T and started managing/promoting bands. He got a kick out of my Jay-T story! Of course, I didnt tell him the whole thing, but I told him he was the drummer for Vine, which was our favorite band back then. He tried to talk all tough and say "that guy better treat you right!" HA! Ive never had a little brotehr say that to me before! Around that time, Drews roommate walked in, and asked if I had a bf. Drew was like, "hell yea and hes in the military... better not mess with em..." I was rolling! He talks like a little black boy... with a little bit of hick in him... I cant even imagine what he looks like! I bet he looks like Eminem. He raps, but hes white, with blonde hair. A young short Eminem. haha
I was curious to know what happened since I left home... He got kicked out at 13, sent to 2 private institutions, and then a boarding school for 16 months. He said hes been looking for us ever since he got out which was in October. He couldnt fine Gma or me, but he found Stacy. Stacys phone # was wrong, and he jsut "happened" to remember Kellie and Walters last name, so he had someone look for them. When he got their # last night, he called them, Walter called my grandparents, EVERYONE was calling me, and we finally all talked last night and today. Moms the only one who doesnt know yet, and of course Dad WONT know. Its been a looong few years without Drew. The hardest part abt leaving home has always been leaving him. We talked last night til we realized we had to get up soon. But hes coming to town this weekend!!! I get to see my baby boy for the first time since he was 12 years old! Hes 16 now, and working with a guy who owns a business working on airplane runaways and such... Drew seems to be doing well, but theres a lot were going to have to talk abt. Its going to be really hard telling each other everything thats happened to us in the last few years- seems like weve both been to hell and back a few times. And Im sure hes just as hurt as I was with our whole family betraying us... except for our moms side. But were SO glad to have each other back! I felt like when I lef thome, I left a piece of my heart with him, and now, I feel like a part of me has come alive again!
Posted at Thursday, January 05, 2006 by Baby
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Thursday, December 08, 2005
I didnt eat for 3 days straight. But I drank my share of beer. I didnt sleep and I cried a tear for every memory we shared. I waited patiently for him to call and say we could work it out. Nothing. On the 4th day, I managed to eat some, but I cant even work. Ive slept during the day more than I usually sleep at night. I have lost all faith in the male race. Everything he said must have been a lie. Our love wasnt strong enough to hold us together, I suppose. I refuse to let another man love me. This isnt something that Im sure I can get over in time. My entire future changed overnight, and thats something that will take the rest of my life to deal with. It has been raining ice for 2 days. It was so bad that I decided not to go to work yesterday. I tried to get ahold of him, but hes not talking, so my hurt start all over. Should it take this long for someone to decide if he wants to be with me? Should it take him this long to decide not to? Amber came home early yesterday, made me eat something and layed my head in her lap while I cried. She didnt have to say a word... Something snapped in me that evening and I decided to leave. I threw on some clothes, a hat and a coat, grabbed an ice pick and left. Amber wanted me to stay, but I told her, "I love you, and if I live, I live... if not, then..." She wasnt satisfied with that answer, but I left anyway.
I was outside for 20 minutes or so picking the ice off of one side of my windshield. I hit it! And scraped it! And yelled at it! And punched it! Til my strength was gone and all I did was cry. I told God that if he had a purpose for me beyond this night then Hes gonna have to bring me home safely cuz I wasnt about to try very hard. All of my windows but one were iced over so thick I couldnt pick them. I didnt care. I backed out of the driveway and ventured out on the icy roads. Once I got on the highway, I went twice as fast as everyone else. I couldnt see if there were other cars when I changed lanes. Somehow, I made it Downtown. I met an old dear friend of mine who is also having relationship problems. I was so weak once I got there I could barely stand. But he hugged me and smiled and I knew we were going to have an ok time. We raced on the sidewalks and slid across the streets. We ran to anything that looked slippery and slid over that too. For a minute, I felt my old self coming alive again! I did things like that when I was happy! We raced to the nearest bar, had a couple of beers while we thawed our fingers and told our depressing stories. He didnt have much to say on his side; he was really good at just LISTENING to me. Hes always understood me, so it was easy talking to him. I got a bit teary-eyed a couple of times, but somehow, in the midst of all that, we laughed at old times; things we used to do together; all of our silly amazing friends who have all grown apart over time... I actually laughed last night. He told me it was a sign that I could have fun without my boyfriend. After a few hours, Amber really needed me to get home, and though I was worried what I might feel like once I was alone again, I left. I drove home just as fast as I got there. It started sleeting again, but that didnt stop me. Right as I turned on my street, I lost control of my car and it spun out for a minute. I wasnt going fast enough at the time for anything to happen, so I just turned my car around, turned on my street, pulled in the driveway, and slept miserably.
Today, Im tired, and numb. I dont think I could cry even if I tried. Its not jsut about a guy or a boyfriend or whatever. Its about fianlly feeling like I had soemthing that would last and be of some kind of stability in my life... like he promised... and it slipped away. It didnt even slip away! It was stolen from me overnight! I meant every word I ever told him abt how I felt about him. I meant it when I told him that I loved him and I was commited to this relationship. I dont break promises. Now, Im broken...
Posted at Thursday, December 08, 2005 by Baby
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Sunday, November 13, 2005
People are continually searching, waiting, longing, hoping, and crying out for that one thing we all want most- to be loved. They start new relationships, end dead ones, and try to hold on to what ever part of their hearts that havent been broken or given away. I see the heartbreak in their eyes. I see the loneliness and emptiness they feel after a breakup or a loss. And some didnt do anything to deserve such hurt or misfortune. Ive felt it as painfully as they have, but not anymore... So how did I get so lucky? I havent done anything remarkable. In fact, the last 4 years of my life have been spent trying to undo, walk away from, and lay to rest the things of my past- most of which Im not proud of. So why now am I so fortunate to be so happy? How is it that I have found the man of my dreams, who I am so deeply and completely in love with? How come I get to wake up every morning thrilled just to be his? Why does he love me as intimately as he does? I dont know. I dont understand it, really. But I do know that I will embrace this love for the rest of my life and be more thankful to God for every day that I can call myself "his". Ive been blessed to know a passion that most spend their lives looking for. And I hope I show him everyday how happy I am to be the love of his life, too...
Posted at Sunday, November 13, 2005 by Baby
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Tuesday, October 04, 2005
that I fall asleep thinking about you every single night?
that when Im having a tough day I can hear you say you love me?
that every day I think of ways I can make you happier?
that Ill probably cry the next time you kiss me?
that my love for you was strong enough to bring you back to me?
that your kiss melts away any pain?
that your drumsticks used to sit on a shelf I made for them?
that I often dream of that night at your grandparents' house?
that Im proud of you?
that I respect you?
that I honor you?
that I love you?
I just wanted you to know...
Posted at Tuesday, October 04, 2005 by Baby
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Tuesday, August 30, 2005
What are you most afraid of? Being betrayed? Being alone? Not being loved? My deepest fears have always been rooted in fear of rejection, and fear of replacement. In turn, I crave acceptance, and I crave that feeling of being something to someone that no one could ever replace or find in anyone else. Maybe thats something that more people deal with than I know, but Im learning a step at a time how to handle it. Love can uproot even the strongest fears, as Im finding out. I am falling in love with the most amazing man I could ever know. Its a real love, something grounded in a long-lasting friendship; something that grows daily, weekly, with every word we speak to each other; something that I know is exactly what I need and want for the rest of my life. He was there in the very beginning of my quest in finding out who I am, and hes been there, in some form, ever since. He knows who I am and who I was, and he loves me just as I am. He thinks of me and sees an amazing woman who he wants to spend his life with, not for who I used to be. The hardest part of our relationship is trying to explain it to other people who know our past. But that really is what makes it so incredible. The past isnt what we are anymore! It was a time we went thru that got us to where we are now. It means more to me that he has seen me come thru all I have, and he loves me right now, just as I am. What if I were alone for a few years, and I grew up more, alone? And then someday found a man who loved me but didnt know- REALLY KNOW me. He wouldnt know my past, my history, where I came from, nothing that has sculpted me into who I am. I would rather someone love me in spite of all that! Jay-T does. Hes seen it all. And knowing all of that makes him love me more for it. Were perfect for each other; thats what I want people to know. We share the same passion for things in life that most people dont understand or care abt. We want the same things- tho we are pursuing different goals, they go hand in hand. We fit. hes always encouraging me, giving me this insight that no one else has been able to give to me, and its so refreshing! He lets me know how incredible I am and makes me see it! He doesnt "complete" me, as some people may fear... he "enhances" me as I enhance him (I hope). He doesnt make me the best, but he brings the best out in me. Hes strong in areas Im weak and need guidance in. He knows when to let me bitch, and when to tell me enough is enough. He lets me have my way when its not important, but knows when to hold his ground and stand up as a man! Hes the perfect romantic- not too little where Im begging for more, but not so much that Im tired of it. :) He treats me not just like a woman, but like a princess (its that fairytale thing!!). He makes sure to do all he can to keep me smiling, especially on long hard days. He respects me. He trusts me. He tells me everyday how much he loves me. And I know he would do anything in his power to make me a little happier. Sometimes, to be honest, I wonder if I even deserve him. There are PLENTY of girls out there who dont have self respect/self esteem issues, who know exactly who they are and who they wanna be, who are working on careers and have a definate plan for themselves, who feel like they are ready for marriage, and have been stable long enough that they feel like they can handle such a relationship. I, on the other hand, have a LOT to work out, am putting myself thru school, not sure EXACTLY what I wanna do with a career, and think that OTHER women deserve a man like Jay-T more than I do. But he chose me. He sees in me what other people dont see, and what other people dont have. THATS whats important to me! And none of that other mess matters to him, as long as were together. So what if we grow up together? I know people who think its a bad thing. I happen to think thats what makes us stronger. Do I still have some growing up to do before we get married? Absolutely. But hes right by my side, patiently, and here for me thru it all! Hes the kind of man that most women get to dream about... my Prince Charming, my hero, love of my life.
Posted at Tuesday, August 30, 2005 by Baby
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Monday, August 08, 2005
Though the distance is hard, and our past has been rocky, somehow, we are still bonded, and were growing together. You seem to be trying a little harder than you ever did before. I think Im just gonna sit back and enjoy it. :) So much of what youve said lately has meant the world to me. The things that are important to me are important to you, and things that are important to you are important to me. Why wasnt it this easy while you were here? Actually, to be honest, nothing abt this is easy. And if you had stayed here, we prolly wouldnt even be where we are now. Some people get that "fairytale" that Im so jealous of- they meet, know they are meant to be, fall in love, get married, have the kids, a home, and all that... We dont exactly have that story. We have a lot of anger and disrespect and problems to work though... Were having to kinda uproot our past and make something completely new out of it! I always wonder if maybe we have tried for so long and its just not worth it anymore... but then I wonder if there still just MIGHT be a chance. Maybe then "love" will mean something a little different if we have to work harder at it. We are trying to begin a brand new friendship and tho its hard being far apart, maybe thats for the best! We are unable to have any kind of physical relationship, so were learning to be friends... without the benefits. Were learning to talk and communicate, and youre so much more open with me that u have ever been! Our talks lately have been so awesome! Reminiscing old times- good and bad. Were finally able to talk abt it all and understand each other, get it ALL out, and heal from it! Or at least I am anyway... I think abt you a lot. I hope that youre really sincere this time. I hope that you really do wanna stick around and make it work. Im not very emotionally involved in this right now, but I think Im just learning to guard my heart. And it would be soooo hard to have all those feelings when you cant be here with me! Know what I want? I want for the next time we kiss for it to be THE kiss. I want the next time we see each other for all the things of the past to just melt away. I want to know without a doubt that we are going to work! I want those glowing stars in my eyes that everyone can see! I want you to make me fall in love with you. Maybe we still have a chance to have a "fairytale" ending.
Posted at Monday, August 08, 2005 by Baby
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Monday, June 13, 2005
Its one of those things that will forever haunt me as a secret I can never reveal to a single soul. I will have to carry it to my grave, knowing that something could have been so dramatically different. One decision can change your life in ways you never would have imagined. It was a wake up call if nothing else. I dreamed about it all weekend. I do wonder if he worries about me. He didn’t check on me or see if I was handling everything ok. On my own. Alone. Its his loss- his selfish, unconcerned, insensitive loss! Ill be just fine without him.
Posted at Monday, June 13, 2005 by Baby
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